Too Grown & Sexy For Compulsory Insecurity

“I wouldn’t wear the Victoria’s Secret bra that adds two cup sizes,” I say. “False advertisement.” I laughingly add there’s no sense in making A minuses seem like Cs. We won’t even get started on Booty Pop panties. She chuckles and says she wants to lose weight. We joke about our appearances more. I feel… Continue reading Too Grown & Sexy For Compulsory Insecurity

On Dreads & Why You Can’t Send a Girl Who Knows Who She is Home

“They didn’t like my dreads,” Tiana Parker, a 7-year-old black girl said. “They” are her former school, Deborah Brown Community School. Officials told Parker’s dad, Terrence, that she wasn’t presentable because of her hair. According to the community school, “hairstyles such as dreadlocks, afros, mohawks, and other faddish styles are unacceptable.” And chastising little girls… Continue reading On Dreads & Why You Can’t Send a Girl Who Knows Who She is Home

Virginity, public figures and women’s worth

Who doesn’t love an endearing Olympian, one with a story of overcome obstacles and inevitable success? Add to the mix a self-deprecating, green-eyed hottie with a six-pack, cascading chestnut hair and refreshing sexual candor. The media loves Lolo Jones. And with her work ethic, talent, good looks and smarts, this is rightfully so. But for… Continue reading Virginity, public figures and women’s worth

Vaginal bleaching? Why, world?

I’m bronze, and I have a vagina. If I lived in India, I might be taught to bleach it. Indian women face advertisements suggesting that they, in much of their brown-skinned beauty and glory, do just that to be more attractive and supposedly cleaner. Most of us know the associations made between lightness and darkness… Continue reading Vaginal bleaching? Why, world?