People are pregnant, married, moving up the corporate ladder, doing crossfit, getting tatted, and I’m over here finding out about ancestors. It wouldn’t be summertime if I didn’t put myself on a mission. Sometimes it’s cardio. Sometimes it’s cooking. Often, it’s reading enough to be able to jump into most conversations, survive, and contribute. I… Continue reading Here’s What Happened When I Had My Ancestry Traced
The year 2013 bids us adieu. As exciting as it is to see this year end, it’s also inspiring to see what 2014 will bring. After finishing my New Year’s resolutions, I opened the Word document of my 2013 ones. Let’s be real. I did not review resolutions consistently all year. Or monthly. Or weekly.… Continue reading Here’s 13 Things I Appreciated About 2013
As the sun beams, wind blows, tan lines surface and memories accumulate, remember caution, especially when addressing recent graduates and upwardly mobile peeps. Some stuff is not your business. This is a mighty revelation for some because nosy people feel entitled to everyone’s business. Because other people’s business underscores universal issues, right? Your finances, proclivities… Continue reading Embrace summertime, not pervasive personal questions
Who doesn’t love an endearing Olympian, one with a story of overcome obstacles and inevitable success? Add to the mix a self-deprecating, green-eyed hottie with a six-pack, cascading chestnut hair and refreshing sexual candor. The media loves Lolo Jones. And with her work ethic, talent, good looks and smarts, this is rightfully so. But for… Continue reading Virginity, public figures and women’s worth
I’m bronze, and I have a vagina. If I lived in India, I might be taught to bleach it. Indian women face advertisements suggesting that they, in much of their brown-skinned beauty and glory, do just that to be more attractive and supposedly cleaner. Most of us know the associations made between lightness and darkness… Continue reading Vaginal bleaching? Why, world?
To the chagrin of many black women in the cybersphere, the Huffington Post recently reported that black women tend to be heavier and have higher self-esteem than our white counterparts. This “finding” is hardly new, frequently reported, and remotely interesting when relayed to the public ad nauseam. Black American communities are not the only groups that… Continue reading Body bashing or banter– when culture and curves collide